Tuesday, March 3, 2009

How To Control Emotions

I found this in my email inbox. It may be a helpful guide on how to control our emotions towards our spouse, our friends, officemates and all the people around us, especially our boss.

The first rule is very basic but many of us do not even realize this. Ang naunang magalit ang may karapatang magalit. Pag naunahan ka na ng galit niya, tumahimik ka na lang muna. Yes, quite often when someone gets mad at us, we get mad too and so everything explodes.

Ang sabi pa ay walang taong nag-aaway mag-isa. Oo nga naman. Pag hindi tayo sumagot o pumatol, titigil din daw ang taong nakikipag- away sa atin. I guess this makes sense but we seldom can resist the urge to fight back.

Bingi raw ang taong galit. If someone is angry, wala raw pinakikinggan, so, don't try to explain and fight back. Hindi ka niya iintindihin dahil wala siyang naririnig kundi ang sarili niya. I suppose we can easily prove this ourselves.

Ang taong galit ay 'abnoy.' It is a modern term for people who are always mad, so you better not get angry para huwag kang matawag na abnoy.

Here’s a positive way of looking at things - persons who make our day bad are jewels, because we need them for us to mature. Hangga't andiyan daw sila at kinaiinisan mo, ibig sabihin, immature ka pa. The Lord will not take away these people - it's for us to take away our bad feelings towards them. You'll know that you have matured kapag dumating 'yung time na hindi ka na naiinis sa mga taong ito because you have learned to accept them and to have patience with them.

Of course, the best part of this is to tell ourselves that, because of this person, "I will grow mature," at dahil sa contribution niya sa maturity mo, kukunin din siya ni Lord. Well said.

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